How well you do in jiu jitsu will largely depend on how much effort you put in. It seems over the last few weeks, I’ve spoken to students that are either upset or frustrated with where they are in terms of their overall progress. Usually when I encounter this, I do everything I can to help –create a better, more efficient training schedule for them, offer private lessons, invite them to more classes that I teach so I can spend a few more minutes with them personally, etc. Sometimes my help is taken advantage of but most times it is taken for granted.
Excelling at whatever it is you want to excel at is a personal choice you have to make everyday. The grass is never greener on the other side, it is greener where you water it. You will pay a high cost because there are only so many hours in a day and so much time you can allot to the things that are important to you. That being said, I will never fault someone for not having jiu jitsu near the top of the priority list, but it’s important to maintain perspective. Are you not getting better because you have a poor diet? Are you not where you want to be because you spend your weekends at happy hour and brunch instead of jiu jitsu practice? Do you prefer to play video games at the cost of missing a judo or wrestling practice?
There is no lying on the mats. The truth will always out and your performance will always directly reflect the amount of work and effort you put in. If you are truly not where you want to be, then ask yourself what choices you can make to close the gap be the difference.